If you don't care, you don't get upset. If you don't care, you don't get angry. So, be nice to him? Sure! Why not? So, help her with that? Sure! Why not? As long as I can help. As long as I can help and not care. As long as I can keep a distance from you. From others.
When you refuse to care about yourself, you are refusing to acknowledge that you have worth in other people's eyes. It's refusing to recognize that, as such, you have a responsibility to take care of yourself. It's running away from real connections with people and rejecting all obligations to others. "I don't have worth. I don't mean anything." is not so far from "I can do whatever the hell I want." Admitting your worth is acknowledging the role others have played in your life. I am a daughter, a mother, a friend, a roommate, a confidant, a student. It's because of that person I am strong, I am meek, I am knowledgeable. As a person with worth, I should help him, give her that, do this for her, do that for him. True selflessness is seeing that your life is not your own. You do not belong solely to you. You belong to your friends and your family. To the people you may know one day. To the people you may help one day. To the people you may save one day. To God who gave you the life you live.
True selflessness is this:
It is to know one's worth, to know one's strengths and abilities, to know one's bright future, to know one's significance to others, to know one's belongings and wants and time are real and valuable, and still, despite all that, still, giving up all that, sacrificing all that, to help another, to save another, to live for another.
Indifference is selfish.
Self-sacrifice, backed by not caring for yourself, is selfish.
Just like insecurity is prideful.
Love yourself. Only then will you really be able to truly love others and know what an amazing life that is.
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